In our fast-paced world, we often hold unrealistic expectations of rapid growth and linear progress. We yearn for quick results, enticed by the notion that everything can be achieved instantly. However, I must deliver the truth that none of these notions holds.
Ironically, the more we desire these idealized versions of growth and progress, the harder we make a life for ourselves, burdened by the weight of unrealistic expectations.
The reality is far from linear progress. It came as a surprise to me as well when I realized that life doesn't unfold exactly as expected or planned. Results don't manifest in a straight line, nor do they adhere to our desired timeline. Yet, occasionally, unexpected results arise when we least anticipate them. It appears that our progress often unfolds with a delay, in its own time.
Similarly, growth does not happen at a swift pace. Oh, how I wish it were true! Someone once shared with me that growth occurs over a period—a notion that can be challenging to measure accurately. At times, when we attempt to measure it, the results may seem disheartening. However, perhaps I have been measuring it at the wrong time. The true measure of growth and progress lies not in instant gratification but in reflecting after a significant period has passed.
Soren Kierkegaard's profound quote beautifully encapsulates this concept: "Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards." We must acknowledge that true understanding of our journey emerges in hindsight, reflecting on the path we have traversed. It reminds us that while we aspire to comprehend the present, our true appreciation and comprehension of life's unfolding come from retrospective contemplation.
In this realization, we begin to unravel the illusion of speed and linearity, embracing the wisdom that growth and progress are gradual, intricate processes. By relinquishing our unrealistic expectations and focusing on the broader perspective, we can navigate our journey with greater resilience, patience, and self-compassion.